The coming religion, Virtus, focuses on first rebuilding the white male ….and everything flows from there.
For JdN’s website this guest article:
Dear John,
I wanted to share some thoughts with you by paying homage to my father, the very best man I know.
A man who had made me the woman I am today.
Today’s advertisements deliberately portray blacks as scientists, skiers and mountaineers, as powerful and competent people while portraying whites-white males in particular-as evildoers at worst and buffoons at best. That’s a given at this point. It’s annoying, wrong, but as putridly trite as seeing a black lips and bodies pushed as the new American beauty standard.
What’s even more alarming to me, though, is how in recent years men across the board have been attacked. More often it’s white men, but in the past few months it’s become….all men who have been denigrated by our oppressors. This reminded me of something i saw a few years ago that seems to have started the trend – the infamous Gillette advertisement out of your United States.
I saw the ad first on Twitter, as I don’t watch TV, and was a little taken aback. So much so, in fact, that I decided to share it with my family and the most important man in my life, my dad.
My father is an incredible person. He’s smart, funny, and kind. He’s a man’s man but also a kind, sensitive man….as many men are. And have always been. My dad wrestled and was all-conference in football in high school, winning a university scholarship to play sport, but messed up both his knees senior year, so he went to tech school instead and learned to run heavy equipment.
That’s what he was doing when I was born – digging ditches, building roads and working hard. Providing for us. Although I’m female, my favorite toys were my Tonka trucks because I could pretend to be like my Dad. He decided it was a tough life for a family living paycheck to paycheck, so he went back to college during the winters and earned a degree in chemistry. Then he went on to get a PhD in physical chemistry. He’s worked as a chemist for many years now in a sugar beet refinery. It’s not a cushy job – factory work. He’s up and down huge flights of stairs, on the concrete floors, going between boiling and freezing temperatures. He works with people who might have anything from a high school diploma to business degrees, to farmers. He’s in his mid-sixties, and he still works 12 hour days in the factory.
Although his salary is better than it would have been if he were still on the floor, it is still a very hard job. Working as he does in industry, he oversees employees all the time. He’s had to manage employees for over thirty years. He’s earned the respect of his company because he treats everyone – male and female, with respect 100% of the time. He demands everyone treat each other the same way. Sexual harassment simply isn’t tolerated.
He has had a large hand in the way his company’s policies have been shaped over the last decades. I know this more than most daughters would because we’re from a small community. My friends worked for him. I worked at the same company for awhile, though not directly under him, I got to observe the results of his management style. I couldn’t be more proud.
My dad is also an incredible storyteller. My favorite story as a kid was about how his dog Tag chased the town bullies out of the park once. He didn’t like bullies, and neither did we, and I loved having a dad who was brave enough as a kid to do something about that. He opposed toxic and anti social behaviour which can be deep within the souls of both men…. And women.
My dad and mom bought our family a computer a when I was only five years old some forty years ago, even though it was a huge financial sacrifice for our family. This was a big discussion between my parents, but my dad won because he thought it was really important that my sister and I be comfortable with computers.
I surprised him by writing a program on it only a couple of weeks later. He brought me to the lab when he started teaching. He taught me how to conduct experiments. When I started working in a research lab, he encouraged and mentored me. He encouraged my sister and me to learn other skills as well. He taught us to change tires, to fix ball bearings, to repair windows, to change oil, drive a stick shift, and go hunting. Is it any surprise I became a chemist and my sister an aerospace engineer?
No, because our conservative dad pushed us to be the very best. Last year, after his 13-year-old springer spaniel died, he adopted a five-year- old dog from the shelter that wasn’t even housebroken because it looked terribly happy to see him, and because the dog had been there for two years.
My dad’s dog, Roscoe – much happier and spoiled now.
My dad is the kind of person who buys something from every kid who comes around selling anything. His chosen charity for Amazon Prime is the women’s shelter. He built a ramp for his mom when she needed help getting in and out of her house. He visits his great-aunts, especially the one without children. He teaches Sunday School and pays great attention to how he is a role model to the boys and young men at church. He spends time every night reading his Bible, and reflecting on how he can be a better person as well. He says living your life well isn’t about you – it’s about how you serve God and you serve others – the two great commandments. He will drive three hours to help his sister install a toilet, three hours home, and then come home and get down on knees that are getting arthritic and wrap my mother’s legs tenderly, like he does twice a day every day, because she has lymphedema.
Did I mention that? My mom’s disabled – and I’ve never once heard him complain about it, even though her disability has demanded significant compromises and sacrifices on both their parts. She’s been in a wheelchair completely now for seven years, but has been unable to work for over thirty. She spends weeks in the hospital every year, sometimes more.
We’ve been through doctors all over the state, and some of the best specialists in the nation. Sometimes she gets down about it, and you know what he does? He never, ever agrees with her. He brings her roses. A rose – Pa brought Ma roses this weekend because she wasn’t doing well. Yellow roses are her favorite.
My dad is EVERYTHING that a man should be. He is all the best things a human being can be – but moreover, he is all the best things a man can be. He embodies the best of masculine strength. He has sacrificed a great deal for our family. He is tough and determined and embodies perseverance. He’s EVERYTHING that the ad supposedly encourages men to be.
When I showed the Gillette ad to my dad, he tensed up. Halfway through, he told me to turn it off. “I’ve seen enough. I don’t need to be insulted any more.”
So – do you want to know why this ad lost my dad? Do you want to know why such an AMAZING man – a fantastic role model – was disgusted? Really?
Let’s start at the beginning. “Bullying” “The #MeToo Movement” “Toxic Masculinity” Is this the best a man can get? Is it? Right about here. Gillette lost him here. Right here the advertisement framed the rest of the piece in terms of opposing patriarchy and set itself up in the far left feminist and Marxist camp.
Gillette implied the best of our men are bullying, raping, and generally toxic.
They asked “Is this the best a man can get? Is it?” Challenging. As if that’s what anyone ever thought “the best” was. As if that’s what most men were in the first place. But, of course, no one’s allowed to say that anymore. It’s a “sexist argument”. It’s “derailment”. You can’t say “Not all men” Even though it is true – not even MOST men bully. Or rape. Or are toxic. On any objective standard.
Yes,there’s too much bullying. And rape, and toxicity. But it’s definitely across both sexes and in both, it’s far from the norm. Yet this argument has already set itself up that all men behave in this manner – and if you don’t, kindly shut up; this argument isn’t about you.
Now any defense of men has been declared misogynist. Any defense of any particular man is misogynist. The standard is collective guilt.
Everything that follows is now poisoned. Because Gillette poisoned it. My dad recognized what those lines were invoking. He understood the ad was invoking a far-left Marxist oppressors/oppressed framework of thinking about relationships.
“It’s been going on far too long….” The ad continued. “We can’t laugh it off, making the same old excuse: “Boys will be boys.” That line is now repeated thrice more.
You know this is ridiculous. Very few people “laugh off” bullying or rape. Oh – it’s been dismissed, all right – but “boys will be boys”? Really? Putting this again in the context of #meToo, which was explicitly about sexual harassment and rape – and again, the first sentences framed it that every man was guilty.
Every man — in every community, no matter what his record, no matter how his business handled things, no matter how he conducted his private life — bears this collective shame.
The wall of men barbecuing, mindlessly repeating the mantra, proves the point. And, of course, we know this is inherently wrong with any other group – but for some reason, it’s fine when the target is men.
Because “power”. Those are THE RULES. I’ve been raped. I’ve been harassed. I’ve been offered a quid pro quo in a professional capacity. I’ve been fired for being a whistle blower. I’ve had a campus police officer BLAME ME for being stalked.
Heaven knows I’m 100% aware of exactly how many people out there view other people as things to be used. But I also had men stand up for me, defend me, help me, teach me, and protect me. Including my father.
And those men atre rhe majority.
The bad ones – they are too frequent, but they are not the standard. This way of thinking about men – categorizing them as a group – it’s inherently evil.
But, to the Left, all that ails women can be attributed to “Toxic Masculinity”. The APA issued a report defining “traditional masculinity” as harmful. The psychologists behind the report, unsurprisingly, discuss the harmful role of the Patriarchy, again going back to the far left.
“Traditional masculinity is psychologically harmful, and socializing boys to suppress their emotions causes damage that echoes both inwardly and outwardly.”
It also eschews “stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression”.
Stoicism? Anything that defines men is now evil. Even the very best traits.
Protect our good men at all costs. Without them our civilisation is lost; we are doomed if our men are dispirited and weak.
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